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- News Today, November 01, 2009 (2)
- the annual Village Halloween Parade October 31, 20...
- This Is It makes $20m in one day
- In love with Cinque Terre
- Top 5: Date Ideas You Can Do Naked
- Defriending can bruise your 'digital ego'
- Is Trick-or-Treating Dangerous?
- Cartoons of the Week October 31, 2009 - November 6...
- The Hunt for Tuna: A Tough Catch
- The Omega-3 Battle: Which Margarine Is Healthier?
- Visit Animals at Zoo
- Kris Allen's 'Live Like We're Dying' Video Due Nex...
- Preview of 'Smallville' 9.07: Jor-El in Person
- 'Ghost Whisperer' and 'Medium' November 6 Previews
- Fresh 'New Moon' Clip Offers Scene From Bella's Bi...
- Miley Cyrus Describes Her 'Sex and the City 2' Sho...
- Miley Cyrus Approves of Taylor Swift and Taylor La...
- Lady GaGa Plans to Dress Down on Halloween
- Amazing Halloween Wallpapers
- Sports Today, October 31, 2009
- His Holiness the Dalai Lama arrives in Japan
- News Today, October 31, 2009
- Taiwan Snacks
- Dating The Same Girl ?
- Internet domain names set to appear in non-Latin s...
- Halloween Candy Without the Heartburn
- 'Supernatural' 5.08 Preview: Sounds Like Trickster...
- 'CSI' 10.06 Preview: Death and the Maiden
- Charlize Theron and Tom Hardy Confirmed for 'Mad M...
- 'Men in Black 3' Moves Forward With Writer Etan Cohen
- Paris Hilton Hasn't Decided on What She's Going to...
- Lady GaGa to Be Handed the Stylemaker Award
- Joanna Krupa's Playboy Cover Revealed
- Video: Miley Cyrus Wants Twitter to Be Banned From...
- News Today, October 30, 2009
- Sports Today, October 30, 2009
- Landscape Photographer of the Year 2009
- Surviving the Talkative Airplane Seatmate
- Google changes to aid music searches
- Top 10: Architecture Capitals
- What Does Her Halloween Costume Say About Her?
- Bad Foods to Help You Lose Weight
- The Ares Liftoff: Learning from Space Shuttle Mist...
- Exclusive Interview: Shwayze on New Album, Tour an...
- 'True Blood' Spoilers: June Premiere, Naked Eric a...
- 'Desperate Housewives' May Air Until 2013
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- John Lennon's 'Nowhere Boy' Gets a Trailer
- Britney Spears Reportedly to Marry Boyfriend Jason...
- Mom Says Danielle Deleasa Is the Right Girl for So...
- Taylor Lautner and Taylor Swift Spotted Together A...
- Miss Thailand 2009
- News Today, October 29, 2009
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- Halloween Pumpkin Season 2009
- The Halloween season, Animals enjoy and play pumpkins
- Body Chemistry 101: Sweat
- 5 Foods You Should Eat Every Day
- Best Cars Are Toyota, Honda, Ford, Says Consumer R...
- What Happens to Your Facebook After You Die?
- Michael Jackson's This Is It Review: He's Still a ...
- Orangutan female, and the little 15 weeks old cub
- On-Set Pictures of Demi Lovato's 'Remember Decembe...
- Sneak Peek: Halloween at 'The Office' and '30 Rock'
- The Lizard Possibly the One and Only Villain in 'S...
- An Inside Look Into 'Ninja Assassin' Unleashed
- 'Star Trek' Collects Hollywood Movie Award
- Details of Kourtney Kardashian's Baby Shower Uncov...
- Kevin Jonas and Danielle Deleasa Already Set Weddi...
- Lauren Conrad to Be a Jester Clown on Halloween
- Marketing This Is It: How Sony Created a Global Event
- "This is it", Michael Jackson
- Sports Today, October 28, 2009
- Beautiful Lakes Scenery Wallpapers
- Loy Krathong Day
- Top 10: Tokyo Auto Show Cars We'll Never Drive
- Why You Shouldn't Pick Up The Halloween Slut
- Ares 1-X Rocket Launch Preview
- Coffee May Slow Liver Damage From Hepatitis
- Rod Stewart: 'I've been one lucky guy'
- Jackson's 'This Is It' hits record stores
- In Germany, A Better H1N1 Vaccine For Politicians?
- Jennifer Lopez to Sing New Single 'Louboutins' at ...
- Winners List of 2009 Q Awards, Lady GaGa Wins Best...
- 'Heroes' 4.08 Preview: Saving Charlie
- 'Sex and the City 2' to Be Shorter Than the First One
- J.J. Abrams: No Plan to Direct 'Mission: Impossibl...
- Jennifer Esposito Engaged to Aussie Tennis Player ...
- Taylor Swift and Taylor Lautner Spotted Enjoying H...
- News Today, October 27, 2009
- Iaquinta and Totti undergo knee surgery
- Coach Ramos dismissed by CSKA Moscow
- Sports Today, October 27, 2009
- A baby wallaby
- Japan's Prince Hisahito, 3, visit to Ueno Zoo
- Making the most of Twitter
- To tweet or not to tweet?
- H1N1 Vaccine Shortages Create Panic, Concern
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Sunday, October 4, 2009
Sympathy Sex - Is It Ever a Good Idea?
By Yvonne Fulbright FOXSexpert It can happen at practically any time, day or night – that phone call or a knock at the door. The emergency: sympathy sex.Between the tears, your own sexual desires, and the urgent call for pity-motivated passion, it can be hard to resist — especially if you’re the sort who genuinely likes to make people feel better, sex or not.But given the drawbacks, should you do it?Sympathy sex, also known as pity sex, is any kind of sexual exchange based solely on at least one of the participants feeling sorry for the other. It can take place between former lovers or old or new friends/acquaintances, and even strangers who’ve just met.Sympathy sex can be some of the easiest sex that has come your way, making it among the most tempting – and risqué. This is in part because with these opportunities few and far between and often offered at a moment’s notice, there’s a lot to think about in a matter of seconds.Your prayers have been answered, but the person up for action isn’t exactly your dream angel. Instead, you’ve got a poor soul on your hands — one reeling from a breakup or some other crisis and in dire need of some physical comfort. This booty call is about lifting them up by their bootstraps and nothing more.In other cases, you may have somebody who’s nursing the wounds of a relationship that ended days, weeks or months ago. The reality of the situation – and the loneliness – has completely set in. You’re being asked, or rather begged, to fill the void.In either case, many wouldn’t blame you for responding to the 911 call, especially given what some see as benefits: There are no strings attached. You could end up having a really good time. This could be the start of a regular booty call relationship. And if it’s understood that you’re both using each other, then there’s no harm done.But before getting carried away in your compassion, there are some things to be considered when it comes to sympathy sex. In weighing the pros and cons, also ask yourself:— Can I truly keep my emotions at bay? Some people are better at this than others, so you need to be honest with yourself when it comes to the feelings that come along with being sexually intimate.— Will having sex ruin our friendship? You’re rolling the dice when it comes to maintaining your friendship since sex changes everything. If you’re hoping for something more than friends, it may be worth the risk. But if you’re not ...— Am I even into this person? If not, there’s really no point, especially when you consider the risks involved, like pregnancy or a sexually transmitted infection.— Do you really want to have sex? Seriously consider if you’re enjoying the prospect of having sex or if you’re getting off on the power trip. You may just be into the fact that this person is at your feet and your mercy.— Can you handle the responsibilities involved? Like it or not, this person is vulnerable, and his or her self-esteem is shot. With sex, emotional responsibilities come into play that make sympathy sex a matter of be careful what you wish for. You have no clue what the ramifications could be, including the expectations that come post-sex.— Are you setting yourself up for more drama? In a number of situations, the emergency breakup booty call is due to the individual being overwhelmed by problems that come along with the split. These could involve child custody disputes, financial problems, or the upheaval of living circumstances. By having sex, you may be positioning yourself as a regular go-to for all types of relief.— Is this person drunk? Alcohol unveils a person’s raw emotions. But the intoxicated one isn’t always processing them in the wisest or clearest way. The next morning is likely to be full of regrets if the sex occurred under the influence. Plus there’s that legal concern: did the one who was inebriated give consent?— Have you done this before? Every now and again, you and this person turn to each other for sympathy sex – and it’s worked out perfectly. Consider yourselves lucky.— Are you well-suited for sympathy sex? You may not be if you have the tendency to fall for sex partners after being intimate; if you want commitment; if you’re longing for a relationship; if you largely regard sex as lovemaking.If you opt not to have sex, explain why, especially if the distraught one doesn’t take the rejection well (which is most often the case). Not wanting to take advantage is usually a pretty good reason to say “no.”Instead, try giving non-sexual physical support, like a hug. Holding your friend during a long, hard cry may be all the support that’s really needed. Instead of sleeping with this individual, try doing what a friend would do – listen, and for hours if necessary.If you decide that you’re up for sex, be clear in your intentions, especially if you don’t want a relationship. If you’re hoping for something more, you should hint at that, as not to set yourself up for heartache. Both of you need to be on the same page so that nobody gets hurt.In some cases, sympathy sex is just what the doctor ordered. The two people involved come away renewed and unscathed, appreciating the shared moment for what it was worth. In other cases, however, not having sex will likely be regarded, in the long run, as the more gallant deed. So which road will you choose?Dr. Yvonne K. Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, "Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots."source: Foxnews.com
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