Top 10: 2009 Bedroom Resolutions

By Jasmine Leigh

Every year, we make resolutions to try to ensure that we are sexier, richer and happier than the year before. Though these resolutions are very admirable, the small print says: "individual results may vary."

Whether you fulfill your resolutions or not is neither here nor there, the important thing is that you: 1) Understand that there may be problems you haven't addressed until now; and, 2) Want to improve yourself and your life -- in this case, your sex life. Nothing has to be wrong in your sex life to use these ideas. In fact, you don't even have to wait until 2009. Why not start now?


No.10 - Learn some of the Kama Sutra with your partner
The Kama Sutra may be the oldest love, sex and spiritual guide in existence. The sex chapter has often been plucked out and circulated on the internet, in books and on DVD's, and as a result most people presume it's the entire text -- it is not. The book is about the communication, the settings and the behavior involved in sex and relationships, as well as techniques and other useful advice on poses, kissing and touching. Western and modern, it is not. Generally helpful and appropriate to all adult human beings, it is.



No.9 - Revisit stuff you don't like doing
If you don't like going down on your girl, try again. Find out exactly what it is that bothers you, and see if you can get the hell over it. Keep in mind, though, the same goes for her. Is there something she is squeamish about? Try again with a focus on getting over it.





No.8 - Write a sexual to-do list
You and your partner can set the timetable -- once a month, once a week or whenever suits you -- to go ahead and make a sexual to-do list happen. Bargaining and bribery also works wonders here: That nasty fantasy you have can be made a reality by doing a swap with your girl for something that she wants to do.




No.7 - Spend more time on foreplay
This point is given out countless times, but insufficient foreplay is still women's greatest complaint when it comes to sex. It is a fact that women who get at least 20 minutes of foreplay are 80% more likely to have an orgasm. Let’s look at that fact another way: 80% of women who get less than 20 minutes of foreplay do not have an orgasm -- don’t let your lover be one of them.


No.6 - Play sex games
Games are a fun way to change the way you make love (at least for one night). Just get a bottle of wine, bring out the games and get into it; they are fun, sexy and different. Games also encourage good communication and the disclosure of sexy secrets.





No.5 - Use costumes
Sexy costumes are a great way to create a fun evening at home (or at an appropriately themed event). Simply tailor the costumes to suit yourselves and your resources.






No.4 - Go on an adventurous date
Get some fresh air into your lungs and feel exhilarated by something you don't normally do: skinny-dipping, mountain-climbing, parachute-jumping or an enthralling hot air balloon ride. Excitement isn’t always expensive, so look locally and find something interesting.






No.3 - Overcome your sexual fears
If there is anything you or your mate wants to try that makes either of you break out in a cold sweat, feel the fear and try it anyway. There is nothing as liberating as being terrified of something and overcoming it.






No.2 - Break one of your own taboos
This resolution regards any rules or taboos you and/or your lover have imposed on yourselves regarding sex. Be it sex in public, sex at the in-laws/parents, anal sex, oral sex or any other thing that is a ”rule” which is just “there,” make 2009 the year to break it.






No.1 - Communicate better and more regularly with your partner
This resolution seems basic, but, in fact, it could be the most important ingredient to a good sex life. When is the last time you discussed sex with your partner?



source: askmen.com